Relationships

  Why do our hearts cling to the ones who damage it the most? Why is it that even when abused on a daily basis, even when scammed and fooled over and over again, we always come back to our tormentors? I'm sure that sometimes, we even believe that we are the ones at fault, that the behaviors and actions of our partners can be understood and forgiven. But this is the wrong way of going about things, to not confront our dangers is to go against human nature. Our hearts, though, tell us a different story.
  What if we could simply, let go? Would we all be better off? Perhaps, but then again, perhaps not. If it were so easy, could we ever find true love, or would we leave as soon as the first disagreement started? I'm sure we've all met at least one person who lives that way, who leaves as soon as things don't go their way, and that style of living almost never works out in their favor.
  So, we can't live with people, and we can't live without them? Yes... And no. An important lesson which isn't ingrained in the instincts of any animal is logic and reason. Oddly enough, logic can actually be useful for finding love. The problem is the human mind. Emotions constantly cloud our judgement, for better or worse, and this leads to either the cold, calloused partner who leaves at the drop of a hat, as well as the lost puppies who follow blindly in the wake of their master's path of destruction and abuse.
  It's important that after every fight with our partner, we take a step back, cool off. When we're in a state of neutral emotion, we can think more clearly, and decide for ourselves if this relationship is truly worth keeping. Was the fight worth it? Who started it, why, how bad was it, who hurt the other's feelings? We must be completely honest with ourselves, because it is the only way to find true love. When we are at fault, we often become defensive, but it is crucial that we don't. We must open ourselves up, completely naked, in order to find the truth. Yes, I started that fight, no, I didn't start that one. Once we do, we can find out what is wrong, and how to fix it. I need to listen more, they need to ask about my day, we both need to communicate better. These lessons are building blocks, constructing the foundation and shelter of our love. Without them, any relationship will be, at best, dysfunctional.
  When things don't work out, it hurts. We so rarely pass our true feelings, intentions, hopes, goals, dreams, and thoughts to someone else that when we do, we want to cling to them. As much as it hurts, we must realize that heartbreak is the natural process of finding love, Like being denied a credit card, only on a much grander scale. We must understand that our end goal is to find one person to share the rest of our life with, and it can't be wasted in a fruitless relationship. We have to know when to work things out, and when to part ways.
  These are a few of my thoughts on love. Ranting is likely one of my more interesting hobbies. I hope it's helped at least one person out there, and I might start doing more of these, if I see support. Until then, I'll end this rant here.